An Online Dating Parable

By: Charlotte James (View Profile)

Something was rotten here. I met him the night of his return from the funeral and the afternoon was misty and overcast. It had been his birthday while he was attending the funeral and I had felt so badly for him that I welcomed him with a cupcake and candle. He seemed so lost. There was always a cheerful veneer, but I always sensed a deep hurt that kept him from really feeling true emotions. As I pieced everything together I realized that he’d very likely been lying to me about his dating and I began to wonder if he had ever separated from his wife. There were so many clues! Then, I researched his wife online and verified that she had been ill, but also discovered that she was from a prominent political family and a similar well-publicized scandal had occurred with one of her siblings. The spouse of the cheater was devout and had taken the cheat back. There was a pattern here and I strongly suspected that Dick’s wife had, at one point, learned to look the other way… but I was not going to be trapped into this mess so, I finally broke it off, telling him I needed to be with someone who was free to be my partner.

I was devastated, but he agreed that it was time to stop. He seemed annoyed by my feelings of guilt. Imagine, I had more feelings of remorse than he did! The next day I went to the dating site and saw that he had been online again.  How had I fallen for such a narcissist? I was angry. I texted him, “How could you do this?” He replied that he couldn’t see how it was any different than me being online and I replied that the difference was he was married… I got angry; I accused him of having an online “zipper problem.” With all of the things I had said to him and accused him of, this is what he took offense to!! I had been played so badly, but I had hit the nail on the head.

Two weeks after our final contact I was back on the dating site and found an interesting potential date who had viewed my profile. I had seen this profile when I had first gone online and had saved it but discarded it when there hadn’t been a response. So, I ‘winked’ at him. Later that evening I went online to look at his profile more closely and felt a rising alarm. It was Dick using another profile!

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posted: 05.12.2008
Veyne66 Venyne66
Hmmpfffttt. Women with potty mouth. Yeah, happiness is anywhere than having to hear that on a daily basis. Not that I am suggesting that you f-bomb daily.
posted: 05.11.2008
Andrea Ryan
A fuckin' mazing! It never ceases to amaze me how soulless and insensitive these men can be...it's no wonder why they aren't happy, and why their world crashes and burns around them! When will grown men realize that they are too old to play the high school games?!
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