Dear Sugar,
I am a twenty-four-year-old and my boyfriend is thirty. We met a year ago and our relationship is going really well. He recently proposed and although we have our ups and downs, I am happy, actually over the moon, that we have decided to get married. The problem is that I want us to get the right help/counseling before walking down the aisle. I’m a little hesitant because we haven’t known each other that long, so my question for you is do you think a year is too soon to get married?—Hesitant Hayden
Dear Hesitant Hayden,
There is no right or wrong time to get married—every couple is different, as is every relationship. If you’re still hesitant, which it sounds like you are, marriage counseling is a great idea. Before saying “I do,” it’s imperative to be on the same page about the tough topics such as money, religion, and family, and really understanding what it means to love someone through sickness and in health. Now if that means you have a longer engagement, fine, have a long engagement. Just be sure you completely understand how each other feels before committing.
No relationship is perfect, so you’re really going to have to listen to your gut instinct on this one. If you’re over the moon excited to spend the rest of your life with this man, then by all means, go for it! Sure, a year is a short amount of time in the long run, but when you know, you know. Good luck!
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