My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year and it’s been a roller coaster. We are both very stubborn and temperamental people. We fight constantly about the stupidest things and we both hate it. The funny thing is, I recently moved in with him. We both want desperately to make things better, but the thing is this is his second serious relationship and this is my first and I’m completely lost when it comes to fixing problems.
He’s always the one who fixes when we argue or when we are upset with each other. I see that in some situations he is improving on his attitude, but I just don’t know how I can improve on mine. Sometimes I catch myself living in the past and bringing up mistakes he’s made that hurt me and I’m not sure how to let those types of things go. People tell me I might be too immature to even be in a serious relationship, and I think it’s time for me to grow up and stop the childish high school bickering.
I want so badly to make this work. He is my first love and I want us to be able to make it and grow together and see how much further our relationship goes. We have talked about marriage and we both agreed we would, but only if things got better. Breaking up is not an option for either of us right now, nor is taking a break since we live together. If anything, it would be the very last resort. We still have some sort of hope for us; I just want everything to be right. I want to stop my attitude or at least learn how to tame it. Please give me some kind of reassurance that things can be fixed.
