Why Surrender Can Bring You What You Truly Desire (Part 1)

When you learn, teach. When you get, give.—Maya Angelou
 
You may have heard the saying that people often teach what they have to learn for themselves and indeed my best teachers are the ones who have learned in their own experience that which they are teaching. Theoretical professors have never impressed me.
 
And in the same vein, as I have been teaching the path of being the beloved, I’ve found that I often learn something profound that is relevant not only to me but to those who I assist.
 
You can call this the law of attraction or in psychic terms this can be called “matching pictures.” When I work intuitively with clients, I’ll often attract clients that have similar experiences so that I can be of true service to them.
 
In the last few years, my relationship with my Beloved has been fulfilling beyond words. He has had insight into my deepest aspects of self, supported my most illumined path, not to mention help heal childhood wounds. Our time together has been filled with magical experiences that I would never have been able to imagine. We’ve had moments where the entire universe sung to us in celebration. We’ve taken walks where the sunset and clouds formed a gigantic heart that followed us as we strolled as well been guided to a beach during a pink and gold sunset to witness a private show of hundreds and hundreds of dolphins leaping for joy.
 
And yet, after a year and half into our relationship, old commitment triggers surfaced for both of us. As it turns out, astrologically speaking when it comes to love, we both need a lot of freedom and to feel that other person is willing to work on the relationship. So interestingly enough, to fulfill this contract, after a year and a half into our relationship I started to feel stifled and he started to feel that he was losing himself in merging.
 
I knew that this trigger was something old because in my family, I had grown up with two difficult messages:
 
1. That you had to be married in order to survive.
2. Marriage was hell.