Monogamous for the Moment: Science of Sex

By: Brie Cadman (View Profile)

Eliot Spitzer recently joined the long line of male politicians—Bill Clinton, Jessie Jackson, Newt Gingrich, Gary Hart, Larry Craig—that can’t seem to keep a certain body part in their pants. The perennial question asked of these cuckolds is, why’d he do it? But for the biologist, a more apropos inquiry might be why are we surprised that he did?

Who’s Been Sleeping in My Bed?
After all, monogamy isn’t something normally observed in nature. Whether it’s polygny (more than one female at one time) or polyandry (more than one male) the animal kingdom is rife with examples of polygamy. Only about 3 percent of mammals mate for life, making monogamy the exception, not the rule.

Adultery is prevalent even in species once considered the stalwarts of monogamy. Many birds, for instance, practice social monogamy—they pair off and stay with one partner for extended periods, or even the course of a lifetime. This led observational scientists to believe that they did not have sex outside the couplet. However, the advent of genetic fingerprinting proved otherwise: the offspring’s DNA didn’t always match that of the male nest mate. Extra pair copulations (mating outside of the social pair) were unexpected and common. For birds and other animals, social monogamy does not necessarily mean sexual monogamy.

Mutual Philandering
So who’s cheating, and why? Originally, it was thought that in polygamous partnerships, it was the male who was doing all the philandering. In 1948, A.J. Bateman noted that the male fruit fly, Drosophila melanogaster, would mate whenever and with whomever possible; the female was discriminatory and bit less receptive to sex. This led him to conclude that because a male’s genetic lineage—sperm—was small, easy to make, and readily available, he could and would expend it whenever the mood struck. A female’s eggs, on the other hand, are large and biologically expensive to make; they needed to hold out for the best genetic partner possible. From an evolutionary standpoint, males benefited from numerous partners and were therefore naturally promiscuous; females did not benefit, making them naturally more sexually conservative.

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posted: 04.14.2008
Chelsey
umm..yeah a cuckold is a man whose wife cheats on him...and polygny is spelled incorrectly..i didn't read past the first two paragraphs because of the glaring errors.
posted: 04.10.2008
Tyler Gregson
Hello there, I was just curious who and where the Photo used in this story came from. I took and posted a series of photos on my Flickr Account that look very similar here: http://www.flickr.com/photos/tylerknott/tags/feet/ Just curious, would love to hear back.
posted: 04.09.2008
Sage Lefay
I agree with Kyle... I liked this article until the end as well. I think that repressing our natural instincts just keeps us in an endless cycle of harming ourselves and others. I believe that being honest is the best policy. For example, I encourage people that if they don't want to be monogamous, they should be honest about it with their partners. It's not a game, it is not a competition. It's not about who can repress themselves the most in order to fit in with the status quo. It's about following your heart. It's about building relationships. It's about being real.
posted: 04.04.2008
Kyle Allen
I was really happy reading this article until the end. This nurture-over-nature mindset is what keeps us in this love-hate relationship with monogamy...no pun intended. But what if nurture is wrong? If biology can clearly show that we're not built for monogamy and at best only built for short-term monogamy, how is it fair to say that biology is no excuse for "cheating" when on the other hand we could say that monogamy is no excuse for being too lazy to find new partners or being fearful of losing a bond with someone that we love? The biggest problem is that relationships and exclusive sex ended up hand-in-hand, when love has nothing to do with sex. And engaging in extramarital sex does not mean the "culprit" does not love their partner. Lastly, to ignore our biology in lieu of "civility" and "logic" would be the same as expecting everyone not to eat meat because it kills animals or drive cars because it kills the earth. Some can do it, (and do) but most can't, and maybe shouldn't.
posted: 04.02.2008
Minerva's Dreams
Some me are just "WHORES" that's all. No matter how GOOD U R 2 them, they will "NEVER" BE SATISFIED". so why even bother? Save yourself some grief and just get a DOG. They'll always be faithful 2 u.
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