Monogamous for the Moment: Science of Sex

By: Brie Cadman (View Profile)

This theory turned out to be wrong. Promiscuity is not limited to males, nor does it only benefit them. In her book Dr. Tatiana’s Sex Advice to All Creation, evolutionary biologist Olivia Judson writes, “From stick insects to chimpanzees, females are hardly ever faithful.” Rather, she asserts, females benefit from promiscuity. A greater number of partners mean higher rates of conception for rabbits and prairie dogs, a higher number of eggs for lizards, and more eggs fertilized for fish.

The point of all this bed jumping is, of course, reproductive fitness, making sure offspring get the best genes on the market. While both sexes may be promiscuous in an attempt to make this happen, there is a slight difference between males and females. Studies show that females mated with the most dominant or genetically successful male do not seek extra pair copulations—if they already have the best, why mess with rest? Males, however, will mate with females of varying status; they lean more toward spreading the seed than aiming high (note our politician’s choices, all of “lower” stature than their own: intern, aide, escort, bathroom stall mate, staffer).

If Mouse, Then Man?
But does this animal evidence tell us anything about human behavior? According to behavioral scientist David P. Barash and psychiatrist Judith Eve Lipton, it may give us clues to why so monogamy is hard. In their book Myth of Monogamy: Fidelity and Infidelity in Animals and People, the authors state that monogamy “goes against some of the deep-seated inclinations with which biology has endowed most creatures, including humans.”

In addition, the size difference between men and women indicates that monogamy isn’t necessarily what we’re programmed to do. In humans and other animals, if males are larger than females, it shows that men had to compete for women; the big and tall males won multiple mating opportunities. The degree of polygyny correlates with the size difference in sexes and since men are larger than women are, this indicates we have been mildly polygynous in our not too distant past.

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posted: 04.14.2008
Chelsey
umm..yeah a cuckold is a man whose wife cheats on him...and polygny is spelled incorrectly..i didn't read past the first two paragraphs because of the glaring errors.
posted: 04.10.2008
Tyler Gregson
Hello there, I was just curious who and where the Photo used in this story came from. I took and posted a series of photos on my Flickr Account that look very similar here: http://www.flickr.com/photos/tylerknott/tags/feet/ Just curious, would love to hear back.
posted: 04.09.2008
Sage Lefay
I agree with Kyle... I liked this article until the end as well. I think that repressing our natural instincts just keeps us in an endless cycle of harming ourselves and others. I believe that being honest is the best policy. For example, I encourage people that if they don't want to be monogamous, they should be honest about it with their partners. It's not a game, it is not a competition. It's not about who can repress themselves the most in order to fit in with the status quo. It's about following your heart. It's about building relationships. It's about being real.
posted: 04.04.2008
Kyle Allen
I was really happy reading this article until the end. This nurture-over-nature mindset is what keeps us in this love-hate relationship with monogamy...no pun intended. But what if nurture is wrong? If biology can clearly show that we're not built for monogamy and at best only built for short-term monogamy, how is it fair to say that biology is no excuse for "cheating" when on the other hand we could say that monogamy is no excuse for being too lazy to find new partners or being fearful of losing a bond with someone that we love? The biggest problem is that relationships and exclusive sex ended up hand-in-hand, when love has nothing to do with sex. And engaging in extramarital sex does not mean the "culprit" does not love their partner. Lastly, to ignore our biology in lieu of "civility" and "logic" would be the same as expecting everyone not to eat meat because it kills animals or drive cars because it kills the earth. Some can do it, (and do) but most can't, and maybe shouldn't.
posted: 04.02.2008
Minerva's Dreams
Some me are just "WHORES" that's all. No matter how GOOD U R 2 them, they will "NEVER" BE SATISFIED". so why even bother? Save yourself some grief and just get a DOG. They'll always be faithful 2 u.
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