Now most all of us realize that there is little feeling on almost three-forths of the male penis. The entire head of the penis is super sensitive, equal to the clitoris. This provides a great ability to create sexual stimulation there for both men and women. However, very few men will ejaculate by only giving attention to the head of his penis, though it is not impossible. They will have a sexual climax (peak of the hill), but rarely fully ejaculate (top of the mountain). This is what I believe most non-vaginal orgasms are to women. There is a climax, but only to a small degree of what could be. The top and sides of the penis have little sensation. The real area needing attention is the base of the penis where the urethra is clearly visible. The entire shaft of the penis needs consistent pressure and stimulation in order to cause full ejaculation. If you were to imagine an erect penis within an oversized cylinder of equal length and you only had two or three fingers to access this area around the urethra, what would you need to do to cause stimulation and ejaculation? This is how you need to picture, in your head, what is necessary for a woman to ejaculate.
There is a distinctive area just inside the vagina on the upper wall running from the very end of the urethra and just behind the clitoris that is the “e-spot,” the ejaculation spot. This area runs on both sides and behind the woman’s urethra on the abdomen side. It varies in length and diameter from person to person, just as the penis comes in all shapes and sizes. There has been a widespread idea that a “come here” motion with the fingers will bring an ejaculation orgasm for a woman. This is only partly true. The real situation is that you need to have the smooth area between the first two segments of your finger and apply pressure while sliding on this area. It is much more like a Disc Jockey when they slide a record back and forth. Now what happened to the erectile tissue—ah it’s in there!
If you are using the correct motion and pressure, you will feel very specific changes to the interior of the vaginal canal. Upon entry, you will feel an area (mound) of ribbed tissue bulging from the top of the vaginal canal; it feels sort of like our throat. After a small amount of time in an excited state, there will be changes. First there will be a complete smoothness and opening up of the entire inside of the vagina. Then there will be a tremendous build up of pressure. It will become difficult to keep your fingers inside, but you must. This is the point that 90 percent of all women stop you or quickly change positions to stop the feeling of having to pee.
The only way past this part is trust. As I trusted my friend knew more than I did at age eleven, you must trust your partner. There is no way past it without trust and being comfortable enough with your partner. You are both choosing to venture into unknown areas of sexual relations. If you are not comfortable enough with each other, there is no way to achieve ejaculation. Men, unlike women, don’t care; they just want to cum. For women, sexual relations are so emotional that there must be comfort and relaxation in order for ejaculation to occur.
It is the job of the partner giving to assure her (the receiver) that it is ok to let it go. When you are getting the feeling that you are being pushed out from the tension of the vagina, you are very close and your job is to let her know it is okay. Tell her again and again. She will only get past the instinctive reaction to hold in urine if you allow it. As previously stated, it is not urine, though you will get everything wet if done correctly. Put down towels in advance to prevent apprehension of wetting the bed.
