1. Commit to Your Schedule
I remember going back to work after maternity leave (of about fourteen weeks!) and how I had discussed with my boss before going back that I’d have to leave by 5 p.m. each day, no exceptions. On day three of me being back, my boss passes me in the corridor and says, “We’ve got a meeting with that new client at 5 p.m. on Thursday.” I say, “Great, I won’t be able to be there, but I can send Sally to take notes. Or we can reschedule.” My boss then asked me, “Why not?” and I told her, “I’ve got to be at home by 6 p.m.” She then asked if I had problems with my childcare. To which I replied, “It’s no problem, the childcare is great and in place, 8 a.m. to 6 p.m., Monday to Friday. I’m as committed as I ever was. And I’m 100 percent available inside those time frames.”
So, when we’re clear about our timings and our boundaries, we can communicate them clearly and most often, get what works best for us.
2. Manage Expectations at Work and at Home
There’s no point in putting in strong boundaries around your office time, then taking work home with you. If there’s too much work to do in your contracted hours, you need to work with your boss and team to restructure. Sounds tough, I know. But balance is about claiming back what’s going to work best for you bit, by bit. And try not to see this as selfish—it’s responsible and it’ll allow the company to have you working for them happier and more balanced over time.
Also, there are the expectations of our children to manage. If we’re not focused with them during our home time, we may as well still be at work. And let’s face it, there are only a few hours between being home in the evening and the children going to bed (two to four hours max), so try to make those hours count.
3. Get Good Childcare
If you have to pay a bit extra for good childcare, then do it. I’ve had nurseries that have had a good Montessori learning and organic food programs that I’ve paid extra for. And I’ve had nannies that I’d trust with my all. I’ve also had nannies that call in sick at the last minute or don’t turn up at all! I’ve had school mums commit time to helping me during term time and I’ve had friends offer to jump in and support me last minute.
