No Labels

By: Keli Woody (View Profile)

I know this is a great way to start an article, but I recently spent time in a mental institution. Yes, I know, I must be a loony right? No. I have bipolar disorder type 1 as well as Borderline Personality Disorder, ADD, and severe anxiety. I am on the correct medication for it, but life gets the best of all of us sometimes and we all get down in the dumps. When I got down in the dumps this time, it was bad. I needed to be in a safe place. A place where I could not hurt myself. It scared me, because I don’t normally get like that. So my therapist, husband and I decided that I needed to be in a place where I could recuperate and get the help I needed to get better. Bipolar depression is nothing to mess with. So off I went to Saint Vincent’s Behavioral Health facility in Little Rock, Arkansas. I thought I would spend a few days, rest, relax, chill out, get my medicines changed, because at the time we thought that was the problem. My first day in, I talked to my Psychiatrist there, and he told me that he thought my problem was NOT my medication. I was like “WHAT?” So how did I go from living such a normal life to being so depressed? It was situational, behavioral. It was MY fault. I couldn’t see that. But over the course of the next couple of days I learned some things.

In my first session of group therapy, the guy was talking about “labels” this and “labels” that... and I was wondering why he kept talking about labels. He looked directly at me and said “You are not bipolar.” I got offended and said “Yes sir, I am!” And so the debate went on. He told me that I may HAVE bipolar disorder but that I AM not bipolar, I AM not BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) and I AM not ADD. I just HAVE symptoms of these disorders, but I AM so much more than that. I had a personal session with him that afternoon and he asked me what it is I do that calms me. I told him that I play guitar, and I sing, and write and get creative with my bad self. He laughed and said, “Well, what kind of guitar do you play?” I told him acoustic and he asked me would I like him to bring me an acoustic guitar for group that evening because he collected guitars and he could do that for me.

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posted: 02.23.2008
Esther Greenwood
I think I really needed to hear that. It's good to reinforce that it is my choice to continue my life, although sometimes, I would rather that it wasn't. I don't always make the best choices. I am not anorexic; I am more than that. I can CHOOSE to be more than that. I hope I remember what you wrote when I feel like letting my eating disorder control my life.
posted: 08.06.2007
Lady J
Hi Keli, I wanted to thank you for sharing your testimony. It is so true that you must become to think more positively about yourself and life. I often tell my daughter as it relates to labels..."YOU ARE NOT WHAT THEY CALL YOU...YOU ARE ONLY WHAT YOU ANSWER TO." So i highly encourage everyone that you be the best you that you can be...and when people try to label you, ALWAYS REMEMBER YOU ARE UNIQUE. Again thanks Keli for your honesty. I always tell my mom who sufferes from mental illness (and I'm not ashame to say so)...by the way SHE IS A VERY STRONG WOMEN OF GOD AND I LOVE HER"... I often tell her that LIFE AND DEATH IS IN THE POWER OF HER TONGUE AND SHE WILL EAT THE FRUIT OF IT..." now that's biblical. So be strong Keli and know that I am praying for you and others that are FIGHTING with mental illness...IT'S JUST THAT A FIGHT...but in the end YOU WILL WIN. Uniquely yours, Lady J
posted: 07.06.2007
Starshine
hi i was very impressed by your article. i too am bi-polar and i never thought of myself as being a label. it does make sense people do it all the time you are bi-polar. i feel when they say that it is saying i am totally different from everyone else. i have written a couple of articles also poems for devine caroline. i must say your article is well put together, also it does remind me i am not a label. thank you margaret
posted: 06.12.2007
Jordan Tiffany
It's wonderful how you can take what you learned to help others understand themselves. This was particularly relevant to me, as I was diagnosed with ADHD in elementary school. Though I never felt I suffered from depression stemming from the diagnosis, I can certainly remember telling friends and teachers that "I'm ADHD." After reading this, I know that those words will never slip from my mouth again. I may HAVE ADHD, but I am not ADHD. And that makes all the difference.
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