To Be or Not to Be Twenty-One Again

By: Jennifer J (View Profile)

Yesterday I was twenty-one. I was naïve and had my whole life ahead of me to “find myself.” To tell you the truth, the lack of experience often left me distraught. It is hard to navigate in a world with no map. At times, I could feel the longing from those older than myself to be young again. They wanted to suck the “youth blood” out of me as I spoke in my simple, childish manner. Other older people dismissed me. Youth has no opinion worth considering.

Now that I am in my thirties, I feel as if I lived a hundred lives already. Wisdom comes by default. That is the beauty of getting older. As a woman living in an image obsessed society, I dreaded turning thirty. It was one of the worst days of my life. I am still not married. I have no children. By all accounts in this world, I am “behind” from a sociological benchmark.

But never in my life have I felt as at peace as I do. I appreciate having insight and not fumbling anymore. I know that as I continue to grow older, that insight will be become even greater. I can’t force the media or anyone else to glorify aging. We live in a youth obsessed culture. But if I had to choice to live every day as a twenty-one-year-old, I would say no.

Amen.

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posted: 10.13.2008
Ella
What a great story. I think you have to embrace being thirty and live life to the fullest. Keep writing!
posted: 08.26.2008
Sara Washburn
Hi Jennifer! I'm 29, married, but like I tell my twin sis, (who's not married) things always seem more desirable when you don't have them. There's no magic potion, and marriage or youth aren't it. ;) I wouldn't be 21 again, either, if I had a choice. I hated my life when I was 21. (Am I allowed to say that?) It was really hard, and I was going through my toughest times. I don't have children yet. I'd love to have children. The timing's not right, however. :( I wish someone told me how much work marriage was. A whole lot of hard work!!!! Staying married, too! It's the secret that too few married people talk about. ;)
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