To My Favorite Ex-Boyfriends

By: Amanda Pagliarini (View Profile)

I’m sorry I hurt you so deeply when I left you, but we weren’t suppose to be together forever. I think you know that. I’m so grateful to still have you as a friend today.

Thank you for my life.

Dear Michael,
What a little shit you are. You are the conundrum of my dating life. How do you dislike someone but still want to be with them? Maybe because my disdain for you proved to be great foreplay. You made me nuts when we were dating, and you successfully make me nuts whenever we talk today. But still, whenever I come home to visit and have a few drinks, I always end up texting you. Go figure.

I really thought I was going to marry you, even though I didn’t really want to. I just figured we would marry each other begrudgingly because we understood one another. We would have lived out the quintessential Italian marriage. Because it was familiar to us, it would have made us feel comfortable and safe. Personally, I think its going to be a cold day in hell before you ever get married, but there is still time for you to grow up. The greatest part about you is that I can say something like that to you and you interpret it as love. The secret of one good Italian to another.

Thank you for insisting that I stay and have breakfast after what was supposed to be a one-night stand.  

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posted: 09.17.2008
Aria Leigh
This is like the 12 Step Program for Alcoholics! I think this is a great idea...did you actually ever send any of these letters to your exes? You definitely gave me an idea:) Great stuff!
posted: 09.10.2008
Richdxii
This article was the one that sucked me in, from the male prospective this was a great read to know or to understand it's not personal but just a process in the the evolution of who we are and what we hope fully will manifest our selves to become. That's the good thing about the past is that no matter what has happened, it has all worked together to bring you to this very moment. And this is the moment you can choose to make everything new.; right now. Thanks
posted: 09.02.2008
Alicia
Absolutely LOVE this article, although the last bit, to Micheal, made me a bit sad, as I am still with my, "Micheal". You described our relationship to a tee... we love each other to pieces, but at the same time, i hate the hell out of him, and so much of what he stands for. Anyway, what a lovely trip down memory lane, with so much thought included... thanks... for the great read, and the great memories!
posted: 08.30.2008
Tharan
Most men actually know quite well how to treat women and love them unconditionally. Our sensitivity to your feelings are what help us do the right things during the courtship. But unfortunately, there is always that one experience (hopefully not more), that leaves us jaded and bitter to our core. I feel for Christian and Scott. You see, our mothers and daughters never hurt us in this way. We are created pigs, not innate. The story of your dating life reads like a consumer product ad. But we men, on the other hand, never forget you. You will always be our ideal. And men are quite the idealists. Our broken heart is the reason we cheat and lie on the women that follow you. They are never you. Where did you go? While you are pragmatic and able to effortlessly move to the next adventure, we know in our hearts that our one true love is gone, skipping through another adventure with "what's-his-name." And finally, he is us. Never forget that, next time you wake up next to an insensitive pig.
posted: 08.30.2008
M M
Kerry, I can't believe you can relate that tale and refer to yourself as "a little ball buster." I've got two stronger words for you. When my son was in pre-school, he drew a heart on a piece of paper, signed his name, folded it up, and put it in Abigail's "cubby." The little Witch tore it into a million pieces and put it back into his cubby. He was absolutely crushed. My husband and I were shocked at the heartlessness that act represented to a 4 year old boy. Did Abigail HAVE parents? Did Abigail's parents teach her to respond to demonstrations of affection in that manner? How can my son, now 12, stay as sweet and open as he is amazes me, in light of the treatment he will receive by people like Abigail? Did you ever talk about what you did to your parents? What did they say? Have you ever figured out why did you responded that way? Did he ever talk to you again? If so, why? What that representative of your future relationships with men? Oh, sorry, "boys."
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