The 4-Way: Playing the Numbers

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The straight man’s perspective: Chris Kennedy

For the same reason(s) girls don’t call a guy back after she’s given him her number. There are myriad reasons people have second thoughts: they slept on it (or have already slept with it) and decided they’re not ready to date, they’re more interested in pursuing someone else and don’t want to juggle, or their significant other found out. Each case is individual and since it’s unlikely you’re going to get an explanation, you just have to let it go. The dating world is a jungle and you’ve got to heed the call of the wild… even when there isn’t one to heed.

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posted: 08.06.2008
Sonny
Assuming I'm NOT interested in going out again, I call if I say I will. Doesn't mean I'm going to call to ask you out again, but I will call to say hello. If the topic of going out again comes up, I'll just say tactfully I'd like to keep it as friends and let her decide if she'd like to continue the relationship in that manner, she may not. It's only right give her that option.
posted: 07.23.2008
Happy 1
Swinger style? I am almost offeded, yet, I wouldn’t put it past anyone, but EW, swapping humans for sexual healings is obviously not a religious trait. There is a purpose behind this that has all to do with satisfaction that lacks within there own relationship, enough to find satisfaction in another. I would never bring my partner down to any lines of that extent. Mutual respect is more important to me than receiving shlong from another women’s husband. So, take this from a “single women’s” perspective. If they don’t call, I say, they might be giving you a chance to “want” them (seducing), they might have better guy things to do, work, perhaps not interested. The hell if I know. (smile)
posted: 06.03.2008
Sara Musfeldt
Total "swinger style." Love it.
posted: 06.01.2008
IVF-MD
I agree with Chris. There are no absolutes. Sometimes men ask for a number and follow up with a call one day later. Sometimes, men ask for a number and call one week later or one month later or never. There are an infinite number of different circumstances that could explain this. One interesting finding I've noticed lately when getting a phone number is something that has happened to me five times already. I ask for a number and the girl turns right around and either tells me to call her instantly, thereby capturing my number on her phone, or she does the reverse and she asks for my number so that she can call me instantly, thereby allowing me to capture her number. This is all occurring while we are still having an ongoing conversation. Either method serves to make sure that we both have each other's number in our phones. We also get to confirm that neither of us copies the number incorrectly. Ahhh, technology.
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