I’ll See Your Black Man and Raise You a Palin

By: Kristi Stevens (View Profile)

Last Friday morning I received a rare instant message from my husband.

Him: “Palin.”

Me: “Yes. I heard.” 

Him, never having heard of her before that morning (he doesn’t listen to NPR): “Thoughts?”

Hmmm …  So much to say via an instant message. I need some time to really mull this over.

Me: “Their base will go wild. I’m disturbed by the implications.”

Okay … after twenty years of marriage he knows to leave it alone if I’m “disturbed” by anything the Republicans do. Over the last eight years, he has learned this lesson all too well.

Him, ducking for cover: “Bye.”

And so began my examination of Sarah Palin and my complicated feelings about her being chosen for the number two spot on the Republican ticket. First, I looked at our similarities. Sarah is a Hockey Mom and I’m a Soccer Mom. Sarah is forty-four and I’m forty-one. Sarah holds a bachelor’s degree in communications while I hold one in business management. Sarah married her high school sweetheart and I married my college sweetheart. Both husbands, in their forties, have goatees. Sarah is the mother of five children and I am the mother of three children. Sarah and I are working mothers. I should love her, right? Hold, please. 

Now, let’s examine our differences. Sarah is a Pro-Life Evangelical Christian whose current occupation is Governor of Alaska. I’m a Pro-Choice United Methodist who readily confesses I have more questions than answers regarding everything from the existence of a personified devil to how exactly God got Jesus into Mary’s virgin womb.

I’m currently employed as a legal assistant and although I’m no Governor, I do follow politics very closely. Sarah is a Republican and I’m a Democrat. When Sarah became pregnant for the fifth time, she was made aware through prenatal testing that her son would have Down Syndrome. She gave birth in April at the age of forty-four. I became pregnant for the first time at twenty-seven years of age and through prenatal testing became aware that my son would have Down Syndrome. I chose not to deliver my son. Actually, that’s not quite accurate. I chose to deliver him at twenty-one weeks and he was stillborn. Sarah will now raise a child with Down Syndrome along with her four other healthy children. I’m now raising two healthy children against the backdrop of the choice I made for my first son thirteen years ago.

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posted: 10.10.2008
Jamerica
Kristi, Palin was on a cover of a magazine with her youngest. I forgot which magazine, but the way she was holding the child seemed very fake. Like she wasn't emotionally and much less physically attached to the child, more interested in the camera. So, it's no wonder that she'd go right back to work after giving birth.
posted: 09.10.2008
Christie Crowder
Kristi, I commend you for your courage during your difficult time. This was a great article. Like Divas Shadow, I was a little disturbed about her going back to work so soon after giving birth. Special needs or no special needs, that (to me) is just too soon. Granted I was always working...even in the hospital during labor...but I'm a writer...I can work in bed! Big difference from governing a state!! There is a lot about Palin that just bugs me but I have to admit, so far, she's putting on a good show. I am worried the country has put back on the rose colored glasses that got us in the mess we are in today. Great work!!
posted: 09.05.2008
Kristi Stevens
I need to correct an oversight in my comment to Janice below. Obama's tax plan would raise payroll taxes on individuals making over $250K per year, not $200K per year per family as I said below. I like to have my facts correct and on this point I was slight off. My apologies. Best, KS
posted: 09.05.2008
Kristi Stevens
Janice, If you read my article carefully, you'll see that I did not say it was unwise for Sarah to have a baby at her age. What I said was you will not hear any judgment from me regarding the decisions she has made for her family. That is her right and her responsibility. However, I believe that I should also have a right to take care of my family and my responsibilities as I see fit. Further, I do not believe the tone of my article was in anyway hostile toward Sarah Palin. If you read between the lines that I have some grave concerns regarding her views on abortion... you did at least get that right. I slung no mud at Sarah Palin and if you have some legitimate views regarding Obama's policies on energy, social issues, the economy or the war, by all means comment on them.... write an article about them. If your family makes more than $200K per year, no I don't have a problem with your paroll taxes going up and if your family makes less, you need to read more. Best wishes, KS
posted: 09.04.2008
Janice Toepfer
I agree it was unwise to have a child at that age, but people make lots of unwise decisions in life. Review Obamas past and you may be very alarmed. Im voting for McCain. I see no qualifications for Obama to be president. The change he has in mind may not be good for the country. Do you have his list? Guess you dont mind a HUGE payroll deduction to pay for your neighbor's college education and health care. I thought Palin's speech was terrific and she is in touch with the needs of oil and natural energy, limited intrusion of government, and she doesn't give a shit about the Washington weighty, self serving, egoistic guard. Drunk driving charge for spouse 22 years ago? Shall we review Kennedy's DUIs? Tried weed, but didnt sell it like Obama admitted, or make a fortune from tobacco as Gore did and who now fleeces the country with carbon credits. Religious beliefs? Haven't you been watching TV? Remember Obama's mentor and pastor as well as his #1 contributor, Oprah? Sarah will do great.
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